Wedding Wednesday : #Love Wins

Today is a Wedding Wednesday that is VERY near and dear to my heart because on Friday June 26th 2015 the Supreme Court ruled that everyone can get married and my heart is SO very full ! Do y'all know what this means to me !?! ALL THE BRIDES ! Literally All the Brides but I thought I would take a minute to explain to you why as a straight black woman who realistically has no stake in this fight this ruling is so important to me.

I am lucky to have people who have been loving and supportive of me for years and years and it just so happens that those supporters have been part of the LGBTQIA community so I want to say that you for all you love and support of me over the years. I am so thankful for you and a special thank you to my best friend Joseph. Jo...I love you more than words can say It's been 10 years so far and I cant wait for the next 10.

Story Time 

For as long as I can remember I have been different ,the kind that you can't quite put you finger on that "Je ne sais quoi" if you will. While I know my differentness to be special and wonderful now, as a child it was bad and EVERYONE and I mean EVERYONE let me know about it . From my Girl Scout leader who told a 5 year old me " Becca you're a weird kid" to the kids at church who teased and hung me upside down by my ankles (not cool right) because I loved Power Rangers. I learned that different was bad and so I tried my best to not be and like what everyone liked and do what every one else did but its hard to fit in when you are born to stand out. 

        I remember in 5th grade or so hearing someone call someone else gay. I asked what that meant and they said " that means he likes boys" my response then and now is " SO". Nothing about that bothered me and I like to think how my parents raised me has a lot to do with that. I was raised in a home with SO much love y'all SO much love ( hugs too we are big huggers ). I was raised around people who didn't always look, or think or believe what my family believed but they were always welcome because we loved everyone. 

I remember middle school was hard and it blew cuz I hadn't yet found my tribe or my people but I just stuck to being me and hoping that would get me far and it did. I got the high school and didn't quite know what to do that first year then I switched schools and met the best friend I have ever had. He was loud and weird and different and basically me in white male form and I knew I had found my people. 

I was lucky enough to find more of my people through choir and theater. People who loved me and accepted my weird ,I wasn't sure why they were my people at the time I just knew that they were. I remember my godmother meeting my friends and telling me is was "family". This was lost on 16 year old me and then a long explanation followed about how even though I wasn't LGBT that I was an Ally and that they were my people and well I guess I had never stopped to question or worry about who my friends were attracted to because well it just didn't matter. But after that I wondered and I began to realize that that feeling of being weird and different is something that many of my friends had felt their whole lives as well. High School went on and the first guy I dated was gay. He was my boyfriend because I wanted to protect him.I was the first person he came out to and high school is mean anywhere but I'm from Texas and we are maybe not the most accepting of differences. But I am happy to say that he is now out and proud and last I checked ha a really cute boyfriend !

As my life has progressed I have met lots of people from all places and backgrounds and I am still family .The LGBT Community has always been there for me even though I'm not LGBT .At one point I noted that gay men would always stop and talk to me and strike up conversations for no apparent reason, so one day I asked a man why he felt so comfortable just coming up and talking to me and what he said made me get teary . He said " When you're a gay man you sometimes feel like everyone is against you and you're being judged at every turn but I sensed in you a kind spirit and I knew that I could come and talk to you and not worry about that, and I'm willing to bet its what others see in you too" It is my hope that we all work a little harder to have that spirit about us. That people see the good in us and feel safe before we've even said a word.

Now that you know a little more about me it IS wedding Wednesday and incase you live under a rock you know I'm a wedding makeup artist who owns a sweet little baby business.  I want to make it clear that my business is proud to support ALL love and ALL weddings ! I am so excited for what this means for BA Beauty and I am thrilled to be able to support a community that has always loved and  supported me ! 

I will now leave you with some beautiful pictures of weddings via Pinterest and The Knot ! 

Have a Fabulous Wednesday Y'all !